Jan 29, 2024 ... 57 votes, 24 comments. 31K subscribers in the vaginismus community. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus.Vaginismus is believed to be one of the more common sexual issues a woman may experience (Spector & Carey, 1990). The condition occurs in about 1-6% of women (van Lankveld, Granot, Weijmar Schultz ...I'm so sorry you experienced that! You can absolutely be traumatized by a doctor; my secondary vaginismus was triggered by a medical experience. If you're able to, I'd recommend working with a mental health therapist to work through the experience and the grief from the loss of progress. I had another retriggering medical experience earlier ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ... It’s hard to stay motivated. Physical Therapy. I’ve been trying to deal with my vaginismus for 5 months and it’s been really hard. The progress I’ve made has been so slow. I went from not being able to insert anything, to almost 1 full finger by myself. But I feel like the progress has just gone stagnant from there. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ... A successful Pap Smear. Today I completed my very first pap smear. I had attempted one almost two years ago now and the pain was so bad I had to ask the doctor to stop. That was when I decided to accept that I had a problem (and in turn, discovered I suffered from vaginismus). It took me a while (maybe a year) to take action, but I am happy to ... This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...vaginismus and questioning. NSFW VENT: so i struggle with vaginismus, and boy oh boy it's very difficult. every time i masturbate (which is a lot, i grew up with unrestricted access to the internet and an obsession with smut fanfiction) it hurts and reminds me of the fact that i can't genuinely feel good. it's very possible this is due to ...Are you willing to go to pelvic floor physical therapy? My worry is that leaving vaginismus untreated will cause more issues down the line. Even if you have zero interest of ever having sex. I wouldn’t want you to develop other pelvic issues due to leaving it untreated. You ask see if they can do a pap without a speculum or with a pediatric ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus is the experience of being unable to have penetrative sex and manifests as an involuntarily tightening of a woman’s pelvic muscles, preventing …Vaginismus is normally pain with sex, but if you're feeling like you have to pee the whole time, it might be that h s pushing too far upward onto your bladder maybe? I'm not totally positive. Vaginismus is painful but it could be something related, which is pelvic floor dysfunction. Sounds like he might be hitting some trigger point that is ... Usually one session = ~1 hr, 1x/day-ish. Always remember to pee after each session! Trouble shooting: Drying lube: If the water-based lube dries up and makes it uncomfortable to move about, I try to get aroused so I produce natural lubrication to help it out. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus seems to actually be a yeast infection. Success. hello it seems that my so thought vaginismus is actually a yeast infection I had burning pain at the entrance and uretha but almost no other symptoms which could be connected to a yeast infection… the pain always got worse shortly before i got my period I even told my obgyn about the ...As you get older, vaginismus will need to be "fixed" for further medical examinations, etc. Just checked now. Amazon has many eBooks from about one dollar. Web research has many resources. Rather than dilators, why not try your own fingers, gently, first, with lubricants? Do not brutalize yourself in any way.Pap Success Today! Thank you to everyone that has been brave enough to share their experiences with Pap smears- successes and set backs. It was so helpful for me today. I was able to have a successful pap after years of being unable to and putting it off because of vaginismus. My doctor was great. She listened to me beforehand and reassured me ...Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. r/vaginismus A chip A close button. Get app ... A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Vaginismus not resolved after 2+ years of marriage. I’m in my late twenties I’ve been married for over two years with my wife. She’s suffered from vaginismus from day 1 of our marriage. She says she didn’t know she had vaginismus before our marriage and therefore I didn’t ... I started hating sex because of it. It affected my relationship. You need to investigate if there could be a deeper cause like endometriosis, because it hugely underdiagnosed. I discovered I developed vaginismus due to deep endometriosis. I've had a succesful operation but the vaginismus stayed, because your body has a memory.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Starting with a basic dilator set is a good choice for beginners. The VuVa™ Dilator Set and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand are popular options that are relatively affordable. Remember to start with the smallest size and progress gradually as you become more comfortable. I like my Soul Source ones! I use Hope&her dilators.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Using dilators. 20s something virgin. I recently got a 5 piece dilator set. Tampons and toys have always hurt so I thought I may as well try. The first two went in really easily with lube. I'm pretty surprised given my experience with toys and tampons. I have tried Dilator 1 and 2 twice in the late few days and I can't feel anything with them in.Due to my vaginismus I also refused to get checked for gynaecological problems, which also earned me backlash. The last time I went there before saying that I will never come back again, one of the nurses rammed a needle into my wrist WHILE talking on the phone with her other hand, even though I told her multiple times that I don't want this ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...So much of vaginismus is fear based and involves clenching, shrinking and feeling small. But these two parts are meant to emphasize blossoming, opening up and receiving pleasure. ... i remember another reddit user said that learning to eroticize penetration helps and i agree! this practice is about leaning into desire and arousal. something ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Nov 17, 2022 ... This is your body and you should take the time you need to treat it, dont let him stress you about it. And like the advice both me and my sister ...Advice Required. I met a guy like year mutually and we ended up making out. After that, we have been talking pretty regularly but since we're in 2 different countries, we cannot meet. The next time when I met him we again made out and I know he was expecting to have sex. I made an excuse that I have my periods and I don't have sex while having ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Besides physical pain, vaginismus can lead to psychological symptoms. Women suffering from vaginismus often experience high levels of anxiety or fear around sexual activity, which can lead to avoidance of sex, decreased sexual desire, and relationship stress. Some women may also experience feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or guilt, and it ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus is considered to be one of the most treatable sexual disorders. Effective treatment approaches include: Vaginal dilation under anesthesia with Botox injection of the pelvic floor and vagina—This procedure involves gentle sedation and Botox injections, which are used to relax the vaginal muscles. The injections are used in conjunction with a dilator, which helps stretch the muscles. A successful Pap Smear. Today I completed my very first pap smear. I had attempted one almost two years ago now and the pain was so bad I had to ask the doctor to stop. That was when I decided to accept that I had a problem (and in turn, discovered I suffered from vaginismus). It took me a while (maybe a year) to take action, but I am happy to ... We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing with the pain personally.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …Ex husband (who left because of Vaginismus) has a new girlfriend. partner. We were together for 14 years, married for 6. Out of the blue he left me saying he can't deal with my Vaginismus (while I started to actively treat it after having more time with a new job). Also refused counselling.Feb 23, 2016 ... Make sure you're practicing movement; this will dramatically help your progress. Once it's fully inside, spin the dilator slowly and then press ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...What happens with vaginismus is that the pelvic floor muscles involuntary contract and "tighten up" when something is about to be inserted, making it painful or impossible to insert. This could be because of fear, because you're nervous, generally stressed, it could be because of sexual or medical trauma, trauma from purity culture, birth trauma etc.hey! i did some vaginismus treatment without dilators. granted, i was working with a physical therapist who specialized in pelvic floor stuff. but she showed me some stretches that helped relax my pelvic floor. magnesium is an otc supplement that also helped me relax my muscles, though it stopped working for that when i was taking it daily for a while, but thats just me. id recommend looking ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Biofeedback is something that you can do with a PT : it teaches you how to control the muscles of your vag, so that you can tighten or relax them on command. So very useful when you need to know how to relax your vag for piv (or else) !! The only thing is that you need to be able to have a sound in your vag (it was the size of a medium/small ...New here & wanted to share what I've learned from my experience w/vaginismus. I realized "THE struggle" when I got my period when I couldn't use tampons like, paps were impossible, & w/sexual experiences. My husband and I got married and the next month we visited Dr. Peter Pacik in New Hampshire.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus isn't directed related to sexual trauma. Painful UTIs, anxiety around sex or pregnancy, anxiety in general, posture - all of those are factors that may contribute, and anxiety, pushing through pain, and shame may worsen the symptoms. 2. Reply. Using dilators. 20s something virgin. I recently got a 5 piece dilator set. Tampons and toys have always hurt so I thought I may as well try. The first two went in really easily with lube. I'm pretty surprised given my experience with toys and tampons. I have tried Dilator 1 and 2 twice in the late few days and I can't feel anything with them in. Do I have it? Undiagnosed. I 20f and my boyfriend 20m are both virgins, we tried having vaginal sex but he just couldn’t enter not even the tip of his dick. But he was able to finger me and it felt normal and wasn’t painful at all, 3 fingers were a bit painful as in discomforting. Do I just have a small hole or do I have vaginismus? 1. Add ...Vaginismus Recovery. About four months ago I posted here about my vaginismus. It's amazing how far I have come in that time. Posting that and reading responses was kind of a catalyst for me to get better. My mindset sort of transformed and I realized that I wanted to have a sex life that involved piv sex. I know this post may not be seen by ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about …The vaginismus subreddit is a place that I found very useful for tips and support and it's not just sufferers in there it's people partners asking for ways they can help. I hate my dilators, they scary the crap out of me due to the potential pain but starting small is the place to start. My partner even sometimes gets involved.Yes, in theory. In practice, it'll be there until I get a new phone, and then be batch transferred to my new one with everything else I've never been able to find. These vulvas will be with me forever now. Try going into the Files app, if not, there is a arrow/download button on your Safair/Google.One attorney tells us that Reddit is a great site for lawyers who want to boost their business by offering legal advice to those in need. If you’re a lawyer, were you aware Reddit ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ... Starting with a basic dilator set is a good choice for beginners. The VuVa™ Dilator Set and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand are popular options that are relatively affordable. Remember to start with the smallest size and progress gradually as you become more comfortable. I like my Soul Source ones! I use Hope&her dilators. Well, first off it's way more common than anyone admits so you're not alone in that. That's also what this community is for in part. I would begin by asking your doctor—if you trust them—or doing some research on both vaginismus and hypertonic pelvic floor as they're often used interchangeably by different professionals for the same condition.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Reddit is a popular social media platform that boasts millions of active users. With its vast user base and diverse communities, it presents a unique opportunity for businesses to ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Fuel_Antique. • 3 mo. ago. Yes! It was the one thing that helped me move past my plateau and got rid of a lot of pain for me. I was stuck with the third dilator and now I can work up to the largest after getting Botox a few times. The recovery time was pretty quick. My dr puts me under for it so I don’t feel a thing. 3.Vaginismus. Vaginismus is an involuntary tensing of the vagina. People experience it at the start of sex, while inserting a tampon or while getting a pelvic exam. Vaginismus can make intercourse painful (dyspareunia). Kegels, vaginal dilators and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help relax muscles and stop spasms.It's hard to stay motivated. I've been trying to deal with my vaginismus for 5 months and it's been really hard. The progress I've made has been so slow. I went from not being able to insert anything, to almost 1 full finger by myself. But I feel like the progress has just gone stagnant from there. Dilators hurt too much and I can't ...I'm sorry you had this experience- I promise you that there are gynecologists out there who have a more informed and compassionate approach to vaginismus. Finding them is another story... what if you were to call local private practice pelvic PTs to ask what gynecologists refer to them the most frequently? These would be your people.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Vaginismus not resolved after 2+ years of marriage. I’m in my late twenties I’ve been married for over two years with my wife. She’s suffered from vaginismus from day 1 of our marriage. She says she didn’t know she had vaginismus before our marriage and therefore I didn’t ...Reddit is a popular social media platform that boasts millions of active users. With its vast user base and diverse communities, it presents a unique opportunity for businesses to ...For any of you who don't know what that is, here you go: Vaginismus is a condition that can make sexual intercourse, gynecological exams and even tampon insertion painful, if not impossible. The condition occurs when inserting an object such as a tampon, penis or speculum into the vagina. So I'm scared but yet soo excited for this upcoming journey!Vaginismus is a sexual problem. It has several possible causes, including: Past sexual trauma or abuse. Mental health factors. A response that develops due to physical pain. Intercourse. Sometimes no cause can be found. Vaginismus is an uncommon condition.2. 579red. • 3 yr. ago. Bought it, tried it once. It felt a bit better but I should try again and come back to tell you since the vulva part felt more aroused, yes, but to say my vagina felt more relaxed, not sure. The smell is perfectly fine, only thing it's …Triumphant use of first dilator! Today was my first day using dilators! My first physical therapy session last week went really well, and my second physical therapy session today also went well. My first set of Intimate Rose dilators came in today and I'll be honest, I was scared as hell. I tried to get the first one in with lots of lubricant ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...
There's a lot of positive stories of pregnancy with vaginismus, so definitely take this with a grain of salt. I started trying before I got help for mine (by just having very painful sex😖.) I then had a pretty traumatic Obgyn visit that led to me going to my now PT. She is very knowledgeable and very experienced.. Thick ass daphne lesbian
This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Netflix Show: "My Husband Won't Fit". partner. I was browsing through the "coming soon" section on Netflix earlier and saw a show called "My Husband Won't Fit." I can't tell from the trailer but it seems to be dealing with vaginismus or a condition very similar. It's a Japanese show based on a true story but that's all I can find out about it.I'm new to the reddit too but I've been struggling with vaginismus for quite a while now so hopefully I can be of some assistance. As far as treatment goes, physical therapy is a game changer. Definitely recommend that as a first step because they really know what they're doing and can help you make the right treatment decisions.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...I'm sorry you had this experience- I promise you that there are gynecologists out there who have a more informed and compassionate approach to vaginismus. Finding them is another story... what if you were to call local private practice pelvic PTs to ask what gynecologists refer to them the most frequently? These would be your people.Had PIV for the first time…. I don’t really feel much excitement or anything for that matter. I hooked up with a guy and before going to his house I told him about my issue. He had like a classic reaction of “don’t worry about it, it won’t be an issue with me” attitude, which made me feel eh. Honestly I don’t even know why I went ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Newly diagnosed and deeply ashamed. I had a gynecologist appointment today and was diagnosed with "vaginismus due to non-psychogenic cause." No obstructions, normal tissue. Although I have quite a small opening, it is still within the realm of "normal." However, it was always going to be difficult for me to insert tampons or anything else, so ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Jan 29, 2024 ... 57 votes, 24 comments. 31K subscribers in the vaginismus community. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus.Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. ... Also wanted to add, my ex and I actually didn't end things because of vaginismus. I'd say it was a stressor on top of other baggage. I just wanted to say this because I realized that either which way, regardless of whether sex (or lack thereof) is ... Have empathy for the person who is hurting now, which is you. Vaginismus has made us all feel so helpless and sad. These feelings just come with the territory. I know how frustrating it can be to have your progress hindered due to the virus.. Anything in general that hinders your progress will be so frustrating. Aug 13, 2018 ... If you're not aware of what vaginismus is ... Reddit · reReddit: Top posts of August 13, 2018 ... Reddit · reReddit: Top posts of August 2018&nbs...One of my obsessions is a fear of pain/ being hurt. I can’t say definitively but I personally have drawn a connection between the two disorders. I have both! I think they may be connected, because mine was super severe. When I got lexapro for my ocd and my vaginismus, they both got way better. I can definitely tell you that the more mentally ...Using dilators. 20s something virgin. I recently got a 5 piece dilator set. Tampons and toys have always hurt so I thought I may as well try. The first two went in really easily with lube. I'm pretty surprised given my experience with toys and tampons. I have tried Dilator 1 and 2 twice in the late few days and I can't feel anything with them in.Vaginismus is the experience of being unable to have penetrative sex and manifests as an involuntarily tightening of a woman’s pelvic muscles, preventing … Feeling guilty and embarrassed. I’m mostly a lesbian— I say mostly because recently I was in the trenches and met a guy that was incredibly sweet and so I thought to myself “hmm I’ve had sex with cis men before, I’m kinda down.”. We both are visiting family for the holidays so we got a hotel room. I was p wet and 3 fingers fit etc ... Vaginismus doesn't have to be caused by anything conscious, and doesn't have to have a reason for developing. As others have said, despite it falling into the category of neurological conditions, physical therapy is crucial to treatment as vaginismus does cause a physical issue..